About Katy Jon Went & KatyJon.com
I am a writer, commentator, educator, speaker and activist on equality, diversity & inclusion, intersectionality, news & politics, culture, language, literature, theatre & the arts, history & science, religion & philosophy, LGBTIQ+, sex and gender, mental health and wellbeing, human rights, DASV, photography, and many more things besides.
I am passionate about learning, change and humanity’s potential. I am somewhere between a realist and optimist, whilst I warn about negative outcomes, I like to believe we will avoid them. I love reading about dystopias in order to imagine a better utopia, so long as it is a varied and diverse one, and not a dull uniform one.
Many people feel a need to keep their professional and personal, public and private, separate. I’ve decided to throw caution to the wind in the name of transparency and authenticity, and the pointlessness of privacy options when Google can find anything these days except my car keys and glasses.
As a result, I’m very visible around mental health, gender or sexuality, political views, but more than that I endeavour to listen to varied points of view. I read 3-5 newspapers and multiple online media daily, across the political spectrum to ensure I’m not in some kind of echo chamber of only my preferred beliefs. I’m as interested in why and how something is said, as in what is said itself.
My Name, Gender, Pronouns, Identity
I am non-binary transgender with a medical history of atypical physical gender, height and puberty development (due to a hormone deficiency). You may find me on the Internet as my former name Jonathan Went (e.g. articles and papers online from the 1990s), under which I used to write and teach. I prefer simply Katy or Katy Jon when on the radio, but can also be found under bylines as Katy-Jon, Katy Jon Went, KatyJon or just KJ.
As to pronouns, I’m fine with ‘she’, but feel technically more aligned with non-binary ‘they’; I’m not keen on ‘he’, though I tolerate it to avoid explaining myself a dozen times a day, as my indefinable gender does send out mixed messages in our stereotyped binary world. My name, pronouns and gender, are less important to me than being respected as a human being of value, first and foremost, even though the courtesy of respecting self-identification is a part of that.
My sexuality continues to evolve but seems to have arrived at asexual with a splash or pansensual and polyflirty. I somewhat tongue-in-cheek say that I have been or am each and every letter of LGBTIQAP, you can you use your imagination to work out how or when, or discuss with me privately.
If you want to know more then read my potted Bio (sounds like something that should go in the greenhouse!).
Also check out my: Talks, Quotes, Writing, Film and Comedy pages, and introductory post on here about trying to bring everything together in one place.
In addition, feel free to follow or send me a friend request on the various social media channels below.
Web Sites & Social Media Profiles
You can also find me at:
- Art Exhibitions UK – calendar & events site for artist & gallery shows driven by my love of art and need to organise all the PVs I go to, sometimes 2-3 in a night.
- Biblical Hebrew Made Easy (teach yourself an ancient language)
- Blogger – KJ’s Rants & Musings (blog posts on politics, economics, social commentary)
- BMSoftware (translation, office & graphics software, SEO, SMM, WordPress)
- Bubblews (sadly this site has closed taking 295 articles with it, but I will re-post the best over time)
- Demotix photography and photojournalism profile
- Facebook – Personal (friend requests welcomed)
- Facebook – Writing & Speaking
- Facebook – UK Art Exhibitions
- Facebook – Biblical Hebrew
- Facebook – BMSoftware
- Facebook – GenderAgenda
- Facebook – Logophilia
- Facebook – Professional Pedants
- Fifty Shades of Gender project consultant
- Food and Wine Reviews – Who doesn’t love to eat and drink, and in our case write about it!
- GenderAgenda (trans, gender, intersex awareness talks & training)
- Google+ (soon to be discontinued by Google)
- Human Library – involved as the UK coordinator & current Zoom magician
- Instagram – Food, Cats, Art, and Docs pics mainly!
- LinkedIn (a somewhat hated platform that I rarely use as it is geared to employment over entrepreneurship)
- Norwich Arts Centre – Board member and chair of A Respectful Conversation series of engagements around difficult topics
- Paint Out – majorly involved since 2014 in this fabulous art & plein air painting project
- Pick My Brain – advising around diversity, culture, and confidence on this start-up platform
- Pinterest – BMSoftware (SEO, SMM infographics, translation tips)
- Pinterest – Personal (1000s of images, sorted by OCD colour)
- Professional Pedants (proofing, editing, correcting, writing)
- Quora (a Q&A site where I tend to answer questions on motivation, mental health & wellbeing)
- Soundcloud – Audio recordings of talks and podcasts
- Storify (fabulous site for collating web & social media trending topics – my first was on neuroscience and gender)
- Tumblr – KatyJon
- Twitter – Personal (instant immediate news & views gratification)
- Twitter – Art Exhibition UK
- Twitter – BMSoftware (tweets on translation, social media, SEO & tech advances like 3D printing)
- Twitter – GenderAgenda (beginning to diversify my personal a/c into a separate gender/trans/intersex/sexuality feed)
- Twitter – GAS Group (Gender & Sexuality studies & discussion)
- Vimeo (where the film “What Katy Did” can be found)
- WordPress – Transgendering (blog posts on gender/trans/intersex/sexuality)
- YouTube
Hi,
I’m an Aussie straight bloke (only because it’s important ) and I have just finished watching the red pill panel(s) for like the 2nd time now. I just wanted to say how captivating you are. You are very open, your positions are layed out for all to see, you are very transparent and it is absolutely refreshing to see. You can also see your level of compassion.
Like most straight guys I do struggle with this brave new world of gender identity and I am evolving as I am brave enough to put my opinions forward and reflect with any criticism of my opinions. Sometimes I change my opinions, sometimes I strengthen them.
I am a very caring person and don’t feel hatred towards people unless they earn it personally of course so I tend to feel bad about getting it wrong.
Can you help to straighten this straight guy out?
Here is my current opinion/theory without any historical research-
As humans we needed to catogorise everything and incorporate it into our language so I imagine sex came before gender. Biological males have a penis, biological females have a vagina, and of course nature can sometimes go both ways in minor cases.
And I imagine gender flowed off sex as an expression of identification of sex. Ie: instead of saying ‘you are a human with a penis’ it would be much easier and more civil to say you are male. The pronouns are then used because saying ‘the male did it’ can be improved to ‘he did it’. It just seems that language is evolving as is most things. We now use crazy things like lol, rofl, brb ect ect to make language more efficient, faster ect as the world just moves faster and faster.
Now from here you also have class and titles due to marriage and education which is where you get sir, maam, mr, dr, ms, mrs, miss and for the most part helped to get a quick snapshot of life position. Ie: don’t ask this woman on a date, she just said her name is mrs Jones, pretty sure I don’t want to be involved with a married woman, it might cause issues .
Now coming back to where this relates to trans people. I totally believe that we are all different and that there is a huge scale of character traits and identity. Some men are very masculine and on the other end of the scale there are men who are quite feminine in nature. I accept everyone as they are and quite enjoy diversity however I am continually confused by the want or need of some trans and honestly more regularly from political leftists that want to alter definitions. If I am of course seeing this correctly. I might be wrong (historically) but I imagine at some point the word gender had a definition change.
If a biological male has feminine thoughts, feelings and mental traits and gender originated from sex, why would you want to be referred as ‘she, her’ ect. To me language, culture, social concepts are confusing enough. Wouldn’t it be easier to look down and go ‘yep, there’s a penis, call me he, mr ect’. I might act differently but I’m completely ok with that and so should everyone else. I mean I’m different in that I’m a blokey bloke that goes 4x4ing, camping, shooting. But on the flip side I was in musical theatre, love karaoke and love having guy and ‘girl talks’. Masculine and sensitive. Should I ask for my own pronouns? I don’t think there is a need and are they truly that offensive? I don’t want to upset anyone but I feel that the trans and most of the feminist movement are putting down land mines and we are going to have innocent casualties and probably will backfire also. Ie: how easy it was for Lauren southern to change her gender. Male rapists saying they identify as women to go to women prisons so they can reoffend. Might sound extreme, but it is just that, extreme. How do we police it and how can we understand and apply it without a solid simple framework that everyone can understand.
Once again, just thought you were amazing and truly value your opinion on this as you are quite candid and open and conduct yourself with great integrity.
Thank you